[00:00:00] Speaker A: In this sensational sex podcast episode, you'll find out what is no nut November and how it has grown since 2011 into a huge men's movement.
[00:00:13] Speaker B: We're gonna talk about how the research says one thing about masturbation in porn, but people ignore the research and go with their emotions.
[00:00:22] Speaker A: We then give some ideas to men who are trying to balance between masturbation and watching porn.
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[00:01:58] Speaker E: Hello, beautiful people. I'm Amy Rowan, the suburban sexologist. Thank you for listening to the sensational sex podcast. We're so happy that you're joining us.
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[00:03:10] Speaker E: So I imagine it's probably a little chillier up there in Canada. But right here in Georgia, we are getting some fall in the air, and we're heading into November, which I just love this month.
[00:03:25] Speaker F: Well, there's a saying where I come from, it isn't Halloween unless the kids are in their snow suits under their costumes. So that's how we do Halloween up here.
[00:03:35] Speaker B: Oh, man.
[00:03:36] Speaker E: Yeah. For us, Halloween, we could, it can be 80 degrees or it can be 40 degrees. It's very interesting, and you never know which one you're going to get.
[00:03:45] Speaker F: So once a month, we do. We don't have the answer, but we'll do our best. Sex question. In our past podcast episodes, we were talking a lot about women's shame, but men also carry shame. And this podcast was inspired by our very own Amy. So why don't you tell us why you picked this topic?
[00:04:11] Speaker E: We're going to talk about no nut November, which is often abbreviated to NNNA, and this is an annual Internet challenge of sexual abstinence and not masturbating during the month of November.
[00:04:26] Speaker F: It originated in 2011 and grew in popularity among male users.
[00:04:34] Speaker E: And although no net November was originally intended to be satirical, you know, it was really, I think, initially supposed to be a bit of a joke. Some participants went on to claim that abstaining from ejaculating and not watching pornography had health benefits.
[00:04:49] Speaker F: In 2017, the movement started to gain popularity on social media, and it is associated with the no Fap community on Reddit, which encourages its members not to masturbate.
[00:05:05] Speaker E: So the Reddit community no net November grew from 16,500 subscribers in November 2018 to 52,000 subscribers in November 2019. So apparently there are a lot of men who are concerned about this.
[00:05:21] Speaker F: I did a quick search and found an Instagram video by Jack Pigott. And in this video, Jack claims that he was once addicted to masturbating to porn, and he's encouraging other guys who are addicted to porn and masturbating to join him over the no nut November to kick their habit. I find this interesting because it went from an idea in 2011 to an industry now. So Jack has a five step process to, in his words, stop wanking. He's. He's australian.
[00:05:53] Speaker E: We will link to Jack's video in the show notes so that you can watch it.
So what do you think about there being a five step program for men to stop masturbating and watching porn for a month?
[00:06:07] Speaker F: I think it's wonderful that if men feel like this masturbating and porn watching is out of control, that there's people out there discussing it and giving way to manage it better and normalizing it. I know for a lot of men, watching porn and masturbating while they're watching porn does cause them a lot of shame.
[00:06:28] Speaker E: What this reminds me of a little bit is dry January. Have you heard of dry January before dry January, it's similar concept, but it's basically alcohol, right? It's like after all the excesses of the holiday season, a lot of people are like, I'm not going to drink any alcohol for the month of January. And it seems to me sort of like a similar challenge of let's take a step back from this habit and see a little bit about what life is like without that particular habit, alcohol masturbation in it. And as someone who's participated in dry January many times over the years and seen the value of it, I think that it has helped me gain perspective on, again, sort of the habitual rituals that we get into around alcohol and starting to see how you do feel without it. Now, I understand that masturbation and alcohol are two completely different things and have different effects on our mind, our body.
But I do also think that those habits can be wrapped up in shame. And certainly during COVID I know that a lot of people, their alcohol use increase and I can only imagine that their masturbation habits probably increased during that time as well.
[00:07:45] Speaker F: To get into a good habit, you need to do something for 30 days in a row, which is probably why they're doing this. No, not November. However, I just wonder how much difference it makes. And do men actually stop masturbating and do they stop watching porn?
Do they take a step back and get some perspective or abstaining from it for 30 days and then they go back into their old habits. Does that make them feel even worse because they failed? I don't know the answer to that question.
[00:08:18] Speaker E: Yeah, I don't either. And I think it probably is very individual to the man and his intentions around why he participates in it.
[00:08:30] Speaker F: Know, nut November has been around since 2011 and this is the first time that I heard of it.
I've had male friends who confided in me that they were going to abstain from masturbation and Pornhoodd, but they never told me it was for no nut November. And I always question them why they were doing it. But ultimately, if you want to give something up for a month, you know that's that's your business.
[00:08:58] Speaker E: You know, I think there's a value to examining, again, the. The rituals, the habits, the things that we do, and especially if they are bringing you shame. You know, if it's something that's bringing up shame, it's bringing up feelings of, why am I doing this? Why am I doing this so much? Am I doing this? Is this too much? Is this okay, then? You know, I think there's a value of looking at that.
[00:09:25] Speaker F: However, this is where it gets murky, because the organization NOFAP is an anti masturbation movement which has been linked to religious organizations. Supporters of NOFAP say avoiding masturbation for prolonged periods of time have many benefits, including enhanced focus and concentration and decreased pornography use.
[00:09:52] Speaker E: And the NOFAP movement endorses a very specific understanding of masturbation and human sexuality, and it argues that pornography is harmful. NOFAP suggests that avoiding masturbation can help people regain control over their lives and avoid compulsive or addictive sexual behavior.
[00:10:12] Speaker F: The NOFAP movement says it has more extreme benefits, such as depression relief or overall health benefit.
[00:10:22] Speaker E: And Nofap goes on to say that people who feel. And NOFAP goes on to say that people who feel guilty about masturbation or spend significant time masturbating may find avoiding it offers time for other activities which may improve health.
So what do you think about this?
[00:10:40] Speaker F: You know, my motto in life is everything in moderation. So, you know, and there are people who have compulsive behaviors around masturbation. And if you are aware of this compulsive behavior and it's interfering with your life, checking something like this out might be a good option for you. However, it feels like they have an agenda, and there's a lot of judgment around masturbating. And masturbating is a very natural thing and should not be judged as shameful.
[00:11:13] Speaker E: I completely agree. And it's a tricky thing, though, because I think you're right on everything in moderation.
And we know as sexologists that masturbation is healthy and normal. However, I think that when you add in just the 24/7 unlimited availability of Internet pornography, and then you tie that with people who may be at home for a long time. Or, again, compulsive nature, as you can see, how it can potentially become, again, more compulsive, potentially out of control. And I know that I've worked with clients who have masturbated so much that their bodies or penises don't respond to the feeling of a vagina because they're used to a very particular grip.
And so teaching them how to come out of that is completely and totally possible. But it's when they're becoming completely acclimated, accustomed to orgasming, feeling pleasure in a certain way with a certain grip that's not able to be replicated by their partner. I think that's when things start to get tricky.
[00:12:27] Speaker F: Yeah, absolutely. And I'm going to share something very personal, and I hope my kids don't for saying this, but both my teenage sons have shared that they are scared to become addicted to porn. And I don't know where this came from. And what I found concerning is when I threw on my sexologist hat and I gave them the research on masturbation and porn, they don't want to hear the research. They're both ashamed and fearful about this. And as a sexologist mom who's done my very best to raise my children not to feel this way, it's baffling. When I give my sons the porn research, they reply to me with something to the effect that I'm being elitist. And they feel like it's a big gap between what the academics say and what happens in a typical teenage boy's bedroom. And my sons and I have also talked about what is too much masturbation because they fear that they could be doing too much of it. And again, I don't know where this came from because that's not how I brought them up. So, like, the social messaging is just so prevalent.
[00:13:45] Speaker E: Yeah. You know, well, first of all, thank you for sharing that. And what's interesting is, actually my teenage son, we've had talks about this, and we haven't gone as in depth as it sounds like you have with your sons. But he's like, mom, no, I'm not into that. I don't like that. I don't want to have anything to do with it. And I haven't really been able to probe. He hasn't really allowed me to probe the reasoning behind it. And I suspect it's probably something along the same as what your sons are feeling. And to your point, you know, and I don't know this for a fact, and I think some people would tell me you're crazy for thinking this, but I genuinely don't know. If my 16 year old son masturbates, I've seen no evidence of it. I can walk into his room at any time, and I almost feel like I'm in a sex education.
That Netflix show where Gillian Anderson is the sex therapist and her son is so afraid to masturbate and all that stuff. And I'm like, I wondered if somehow the openness around sex that we. That they're experiencing more than other things has almost pushed them into this other thing. So, anyway, I guess I just share that to just let you know that I feel like my son is maybe experiencing some of that, too.
And I'm also like, oh, my gosh, have I somehow said or done something to create shame? Which, of course, is the last thing that we ever want to do.
[00:15:15] Speaker F: Although I've read the research on porn and masturbation, which we're going to get into, my anecdotal experience shows that the fear and shame around porn and masturbation in the societal messages is everywhere. And, you know, I think it's definitely something that we want to talk to our teenage sons about. Speaking of which, Amy, let's discuss what the experts have to say about sex and porn addiction. The American Psychiatric association and the Diagnostic and Statistic Manual of Mental Disorders do not recognize porn addiction as an official diagnosis.
[00:15:55] Speaker E: And the American association of Sexuality Educators, counselors, and therapists also argue that there's insufficient scientific evidence to support the existence of sex or porn addiction.
[00:16:08] Speaker F: There is no scientific evidence that abstinence has any positive effect on your mood, energy levels, or motivation.
[00:16:18] Speaker E: There's also no scientific evidence that suggests that masturbation is harmful. Additionally, there's no studies that state that avoiding masturbation avoids any specific benefits.
[00:16:31] Speaker F: However, for many years, researchers didn't believe the g spot existed, which was confusing for those women who were having g spot orgasms. So just because there isn't scientific research to validate porn or sex addiction, it doesn't mean it isn't true.
[00:16:49] Speaker E: I think what.
What stands out to me here is that accessibility to porn, VR, you know, camming, you know, all of this stuff is progressing so fast, so much faster than these studies can keep up with, because studies, you know, studies like this take. I mean, I don't know, you're. You're a doctor, not me. But, you know, six months, a year, two years, depends on how longitudinal it goes. Also, in my studies, my sexology study, my organization, sex coach university, takes the stance that porn addiction is not an addiction, as porn addiction isn't real. But there is problematic compulsory behavior. And so, you know, so I think it's important to recognize that this is constantly evolving. And I know many, many people who would say that pornography has, if not completely and totally destroyed their marriage, certainly had a major negative effect on it. And so I don't think it's fair to discount those people's experiences, because, again, it is one thing to look at a whole bunch of numbers, and then it's another thing to actually be living with somebody who is spending more time on their computer than spending time with you.
[00:18:12] Speaker F: My observation is there is a group of people who are compulsive about porn and masturbation, and it does get in the way of them having a happy, healthy relationship with themselves and their partner. However, the vast majority of people do have the checks and balances to not let porn and masturbation take over their lives. But for many years, and to some extent, even today, sex and porn addiction were very sexy clickbait topics, and the media has really blown this out of proportion.
[00:18:46] Speaker E: But I will share that earlier on in my relationship, porn was a negative influence in our relationship. When my husband and I first started dating, he shared with me. He was actually open about it. He said, Amy, I like to look at porn when I masturbate, but I promise that this will never interfere with our relationship, with our sexual connection.
But this is something that I do, and I had a really, really, really hard time with it. And we had many, many, many fights over the years over it. And ultimately, and it took probably 20 years. It took me probably 20 years to get to a place where it finally didn't bother me. And ultimately, what it was for me was it was a self esteem thing for me.
And certainly as we got married and then as I got pregnant and as we had children and my body changed and my mood changed and my weight in all of these different things. And then every once in a while, I would discover that he'd been looking at porn, and I would blow up because I felt bad about myself, and he felt bad about.
He didn't want to do anything that would make me feel bad. But I actually admire the fact that he said, this is something normal for me to do. It's not interfering with our sexual connection, which it never did, other than my own self esteem. And ultimately, how I overcame how I was feeling about it is I'd never really looked at porn shockingly. And for me, it wasn't actually visual porn. I preferred listening to, like, erotica and things like that. Once I started exploring my own version of erotic stimulation, and I really, actually learned to recognize how completely and totally separate it was from the connection that I had for my husband. Then I finally got it, and then, poof, it wasn't a problem anymore.
[00:20:41] Speaker F: Amy, thank you so much for sharing that. There's going to be a lot of people listening to what you just said. And you've just helped a lot of people with that chair. So thanks for getting so vulnerable that I'm sure that wasn't, that was tricky for you to do. So well done. Well done, Amy.
[00:21:01] Speaker E: Thank you. Thank you. Well, and, you know, the ironic part of it for me was through all that, at that point, I was an intimacy toy consultant. I was like, I sell sex toys for a living. I am making a living off of helping people masturbate. And yet when I find out that my husband has been masturbating, I get mad. I was like, what a hypocrite I am.
[00:21:19] Speaker F: No, no, no.
[00:21:21] Speaker E: And that's how I felt. That's how I felt.
[00:21:23] Speaker F: Anyways. I'm saying you're not because the research shows you cannot become addicted to porn and sex. However, there is a disconnect, like you were saying, there's a disconnect that we have because we have so much fear and shame and misunderstanding around this topic. So you just showed us how that disconnect works. So thank you. Thank you very much.
[00:21:44] Speaker E: Yeah. And this also just shows that men also have the same irrational shame and guilt and fear as women. It just shows up in a very different way.
[00:21:54] Speaker F: Yeah. And knowing that November really isn't a new concept. Lent, which is a traditional catholic religious observation in which participants abstain from certain foods and luxuries, which can include sexual activity for six weeks leading up to Easter Ramadan.
[00:22:13] Speaker E: A religious observation in which muslims abstain from food, water and sexual activity during daytime for a lunar month.
Yeah.
[00:22:21] Speaker F: I think we see abstinence being promoted in different religious organizations, and they promote the health benefits of abstaining from not just sex, but from, from different.
What are the seven deadly sins?
[00:22:39] Speaker E: Lust, greed, sloth.
I'm thinking about that movie. What's that movie with Brad Pitt? Seven. Lust, greed, sloth.
[00:22:51] Speaker F: Anyways, there's seven and seven of them. There's seven. And you can email us and tell us what the seven
[email protected]. and a lot of religious organizations really recommend that you abstain for a while from one of the seven deadly sins.
[00:23:09] Speaker E: Well, and you know what? I think the core of this abstinence from these different things, whether it's sex or food, it is abstaining from pleasure.
And that's what it's like, okay, you're going to abstain from eating these good foods or you're going to abstain.
And when you are promoting abstaining from pleasure. You're also creating shame and guilt around indulging in pleasure. So, as someone who grew up in New Orleans, I grew up in New Orleans. And everyone. What does everyone think about with New Orleans? Mardi Gras, of course. Or Mardi Gras is the day before lent starts. It's fat Tuesday. It's the day that you go completely and totally crazy before you have 40 days and nights of abstaining. So it's actually a religious holiday where it's connected to the religious holiday. But when you're promoting abstinence, then you're also simultaneously creating shame around the indulgence of whatever it is you're abstaining from. There has been some pushback to no nut November. In 2017, there was a related Internet challenge, and I'm sorry, this sounds awful to me, but I'm not a guy, so I don't know. It's called destroy Dick December, and this started serving as a counterpoint. It's a parody of no nut November. And in 2017, destroy dick December. It's supposed to start on December 1, and each day you masturbate until completion in a quantity in relation to the.
[00:24:43] Speaker F: Date, meaning you must masturbate one time on the first, twice on December 2, three times on December 3, and so on until you get to the 31st.
I don't want to masturbate 31 times in a day, thank you very much.
[00:25:03] Speaker E: No, no. And if we're talking about missing the point, I think this is the clear illustration of missing the point, because if you are participating in no. Net November, to be able to gain some clarity, examine your habits, just look at some perspective, and just see if there's anything that changes, that you want to grow. And then you flip into this destroyed December, then, yeah, I think you've just missed the point completely, in my opinion. So I'm sorry if that's controversial, but that's how I feel about that.
[00:25:39] Speaker F: I don't think there is an answer here. I think it can be tough for some men to find balance between masturbating and watching porn. So maybe something like no nut no. Can help a guy to take a step back and assess whether what he is doing is adding or subtracting from the quality of his life, relationships, and sexual experience.
[00:26:02] Speaker B: And we'll be right back. Hey, men. Are you tired of having the same old boring sex?
[00:26:10] Speaker A: For those guys wanting their partners to be more interested in sex, listen up.
[00:26:16] Speaker B: I'm Amy Rowan, the suburban sexologist.
[00:26:19] Speaker A: And I'm doctor Trina Reid. And women in long term relationships are a lot more likely to lose interest in sex because of the type of sex she's having. When you change the sex, chances are her sexual interest will increase.
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[00:31:27] Speaker E: I see the value of no. Net November if you are, again, if you are going into it, looking for some perspective on your so I see the value in that. I think also as sexologists we know that masturbation is healthy and normal and when done in moderation and when done out of respect for yourself, out of respect for your relationship and just being aware, there are certainly dark corners of the Internet that you can stumble into. And if you're finding yourself actively seeking out more and more explicit, darker hardcore content, then this might be something that you want to take a closer look at. I think for some people, and easier for some people to start to fall into darker rabbit holes that they may not want to end up.
[00:32:19] Speaker F: And this might be a great opportunity for you to speak to a sex therapist.
They've seen this. They know how to manage it. There's going to be no judgment. In fact, you'll probably feel a lot less shame once you speak to a professional about what's going on in your life. So think about that. So we're going to leave you with some thoughts so you can make your own decision.
First of all, masturbation is a normal and harmless sexual practice that can be part of a healthy sex life. And masturbation offers some health benefits.
[00:32:57] Speaker E: I mean, I will say one thing that I do like to say about masturbation, especially when talking about female masturbation, is you can't get pregnant.
And if watching porn and masturbating begins to interfere with a person's daily life, it may be worth considering trying to masturbate less frequently.
[00:33:18] Speaker F: People who want to stop masturbating can get support from the no Fap community, but there is generally no medical or moral reason to stop.
[00:33:30] Speaker E: And a person who feels pressure to stop masturbation should really consider their own values. It is their decision if they masturbate or not and how often they do it.
[00:33:43] Speaker F: It really is up to you. I think what we're doing with this podcast is just raising an awareness of what this is and some ideas for you to mull over. And ultimately, it's up to you how you want to move forward. And I hope you can move forward without shame.
Just imagine what this piece of your life would look like if you took the shame component out.
[00:34:10] Speaker E: Absolutely.
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[00:34:33] Speaker F: Until our next podcast, stay sexy.
[00:34:36] Speaker B: On next week's episode of the Sensational Sex podcast, are you worth the trouble.
[00:34:42] Speaker C: That it takes to have good sex?
[00:34:44] Speaker A: Understanding what you need from the sexual experience, which may be different from your partner, and then ask for what you want is all based on you feeling worthy.
[00:34:56] Speaker B: Hi, I'm Amy Rowan, the suburban sexologist.
[00:35:00] Speaker A: And I'm doctor Trina Reid. And we're so happy to help your sexuality thrive after the honeymoon stage is over.
[00:35:07] Speaker B: In this episode, we go through a letter from a woman that we'll call Jane and the sexual struggles that she's dealing with.
[00:35:15] Speaker A: So how did women get here? It's completely messed up that Jane is compelled to push herself so hard, ask for so little, and expect even less.
[00:35:25] Speaker B: Jane needs to learn how to communicate about her sexual needs, set boundaries and negotiate, and this seems like such a big impasse for most women. More important, why does communicating about sexual needs, setting boundaries, and negotiating seem to be such an impasse for most women? More importantly, what can you do about it?
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